Moving With Young Children

Kids tend to base their feelings of security in part around their home life. Whenever this life is disrupted, kids can become anxious. Although even small things like a change in routine can be anxiety provoking, one of the most difficult experiences for a young child is moving to a new home. For many people, moving is exciting. It can mean a fresh start, fulfilling a dream of homeownership, or taking on a challenging new position. But, for young children, moving means giving up everything they've ever known. There are, however, several things you can do to help your child make the move seamlessly.

Moving with Children

It's never a good idea to spring a move on a very young child the day of the move. She should be involved every step of the way so that she knows what's coming. Here are a few suggestions to make sure she's involved in the process:

• Talk about the move. Most kids understand more than we think they do. Let your child know that it's time to move and what that means. Let her know that you'll be taking all her things with you and that she won't be giving up anything.
• Involve your child in the moving process. Take her with you when you look at potential homes. Kids love a new adventure.
• Get her opinion. Ask your child what she thinks about potential homes. When you tour a new home, say something like "Wow, this would be a great room for you! What color do you want to paint it? Where do you think we should put your toys?" Use this tactic to help your child imagine your other furniture in the new house. Talk about where you'll put the kitchen table, the swing set, and what flowers you'll plant in the yard.
• Most young children are used to loss in some form. They outgrow their clothes and toys. Liken the move to outgrowing your current residence and moving to something that's a better fit.
• Get her help. Small children love to help. Give her a box and have her pack some of her things. It doesn't matter if she does a good job, just that she feels involved. You can even have her put some small boxes in the car and take them to the new house.

Although many kids adjust to a move without any trouble at all, others may resist the move, develop behavioral problems, or show other signs of stress. If your child continues to show signs of stress after the move, talk to your child's teacher, a parent coach, or your pediatrician for advice.