Your child has always been sweet and kind… that is until she hit the "tween" years. There is no doubt about it: Raising tweens and teens is a tough and challenging adventure, even for Supernanny herself. If you've started experiencing backtalk and attitude from your child, you're probably ready to do something about it, and fast. Based on Supernanny tips for positive discipline, these effective behavior approaches can help make the tween and teen years a better time for you and your child.
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Supernanny Tips to Stop Bad Behavior
If you haven't had any luck getting your teenager to stop with the sass, you might want to try some Supernanny tips. Take advantage of the parenting discipline tips below to correct adolescent misbehavior:
- Stay calm. Overreacting will only make things worse. If your child tells you something shocking or displeasing, stay calm, or else your tween or teen is likely to hide things in the future. How parents react to a situation has a huge impact on how kids will act.
- Stand your ground. When you need to reiterate a rule, give children reasons why there is such a rule, speak firmly and make eye contact. But do understand that rules need to be changed as a child grows into her tween and teen years.
- Open communication. Maintaining an open line of communication during your child's tween and teen years is essential. Teenagers are subject to a lot of pressure and stress during these developmental years, i.e. trying to fit in and seem "cool." It's important that you know what is going on in your child's life and talk openly with her about her daily activities and possible problems.
- Set up printable chore charts or behavior charts. These tools help your teen understand exactly what's expected of her. Add some fun to your behavior system by setting up rewards your child really wants and helping her earn those rewards by completing her chores or by using the behaviors you put on your chart.
- Don't criticize. Tweens and teens are especially sensitive to criticism. Many teens are struggling with self-esteem issues. Never belittle your kids.
- Encourage independence. Sure, it's hard to let go, but it's also important to encourage your child to try new things and have a social life. Teenagers learn from their mistakes. Still, don't completely let go of the reigns and remember to be there for your child when she makes a mistake. "I told you so" is hardly ever an effective teaching tool.
Listen Like Supernanny
As your child grows up and experiences new challenges, she needs someone to listen. As a parent, you should be that listener. Having someone to talk to will only help your tween or teen further analyze a situation and make great choices.